If your husband has passed away, you are more than likely grieving about losing not only your spouse but your very best friend. If you were married for a short time, you are tremendously sad that your experiences together didn't last long enough. If you and your husband were married for many years, there is probably an emptiness that is so great that it's indescribable.
No matter the length of the marriage, perhaps you are looking for help in dealing with the great sadness you are feeling. If that's the case, from things you can do yourself to being part of a grief support group, here are some things that might help you.
Things You Can Do Yourself - Think about starting a journal where each day you write down a memory of times you spent with your husband. Of course, you'll more than likely focus on the happiest times, won't you? However, it might also be beneficial for you to write down problems you might have faced together. Follow with the things you did to resolve those hard times. If you are feeling guilty about your part in those problems, include a journal entry where you give yourself permission to put that guilt aside. By doing so, you will more than likely be better able to go forward in your life.
Have you been keeping to yourself a lot? Maybe you feel closer to your husband by staying in the home you shared together. However, don't you think your husband would have wanted you to continue your life with a feeling of joy? Consider seeking out old friends that you can spend quality time with. Go to places like your favorite restaurants, art galleries, and museums.
If you and your husband often attended movies together, it might be hard to go to one without him at this time. You might just cry during even the funniest movie because you'll remember how you used to share popcorn or hold hands while you were watching a movie together. Hopefully the time will come when you can go to a movie to enjoy yourself. That might happen more easily if you go with a friend or with several friends.
Join A Grief Support Group - Have you ever thought of joining a grief support group? Your family doctor, the ecclesiastic leader at your place of worship, or even the funeral home director will more than likely be able to provide you the contact information for a grief support leader.
If you do join a grief support group, don't hold back on your feelings. Remember that others in the group will have faced loss themselves. They'll understand what you're going through, and they might have words of wisdom to comfort you. And, don't be surprised when you find that you yourself will end up helping others who are grieving.